FAQ
How do I talk about cancer with my loved one?
Just asking this question means that you are ready to begin the discussion. Talk to your doctor or nurse, and they can provide you with helpful tips on how to start. You are not alone in this journey.
How can I talk to my children about cancer?
Children require guidance and support when a parent has cancer. There are many resources available to parents with small children online and in print. Just ask your nurse to get you started. There are many local organizations available to help you discuss your cancer with your children. For a list of support services ask your nurse.
What are my chances of developing cancer?
Most cancer is sporadic and the result of a combination of age, sex, lifestyle, and environmental factors. Sometimes an obvious carcinogen can be found but, more often, this is not the case. A small number of cancers are caused by an inherited gene which was passed on from a parent to a child, but this is rare. Commonwealth Hematology-Oncology has a genetic counseling and risk assessment program for patients who are seen in the practice or referred by another doctor. If you suspect a genetic cause for your cancer, talk to your doctor.
What affect will caring for my loved one have on me?
You may feel a multitude of emotions as a caregiver of someone with cancer. Some of these feelings may conflict with one another—please know that this is not unusual. You may feel fulfilled and find that caring for someone else is very rewarding. However, feelings of resentment, fear, depression, anger, frustration, loneliness, and isolation are also common. Looking after someone else isn’t always easy or satisfying and can be a time filled with worry. It’s not unusual to feel guilty for having these kinds of feelings. Don’t be afraid to seek help and support during this difficult time.
How can I support someone with cancer?
Talk to your loved one—communication is a critical part of any cancer diagnosis. You can research their disease to gain an understanding of what’s happening to them. You can accompany them to doctor or chemotherapy visits. You can also offer to help out with errands or just volunteer to walk the dog or pick up the kids from practice. Ask your loved one how you can help them as they deal with their cancer, and remember that listening is sometimes the most helpful thing you can do. Take your cues from your loved one.
My loved one has confided in me that he/she has cancer and has asked me not to tell anyone. What should I do?
Always respect the privacy of the cancer patient—don’t tell others unless you are given permission to do so. Focus instead on how you can support your loved one now that you know he/she has cancer. Be patient, as it may take some time for your loved one to deal with a cancer diagnosis and be ready to tell others about it.
What can I expect for my loved one during this difficult time?
Every patient is different and will respond in different ways to cancer and treatment. Some common changes are hair loss, fatigue, changes in weight and appetite, nausea, sleep problems, and trouble concentrating. If your loved one has had surgery, he or she may be dealing with disfigurement as well. In any case, be prepared for good days and bad days.